Revelations of a Single Mama
I think one of the toughest things about ending a relationship is the vulnerability that ensues afterward. You’ve likely shared intimate moments or private thoughts with your partner and now it feels like that person is out there with stolen property. This can be true when you end a marriage, or a long-term relationship or…
My ex-husband was in his early thirties when I left him. The night I left, I had realized his dad was still breastfeeding him. As long as he’s on the boob, he’ll never mature into a man. As I’ve said before, I used to date very put-together, mature men. And what I mean by that…
Traveling as a mom is so much harder than I anticipated. Recently, I had to travel for the first time since I had my little girl and it was every bit as hard as I imagined. It is particularly hard during COVID, because it’s a new level of stress to be concerned that you will…
Yes, you read that right. It’s a spin on the Cary Grant and Audrey Hepburn classic “Bringing Up Baby”. Instead, I’m talking about raising a daddy. Now I know there are some wonderful men out there. They may be an amazing husband, father, son, friend, employee, coworker, and overall a wonderful person. Today, I’m not…
Today marks a special day for me. One year ago today, I left my husband and it was the best decision I ever made. It was a half hour before midnight on New Year’s Eve and he had been screaming at me and my two-month old for hours. The profanities he was yelling at me,…
This was the moment I’ve been dreading for 10 months… my first overnight away from my baby. My ex didn’t have any overnights until my daughter turned 12 months. He was supposed to take her two weeks ago for his first overnight…a Saturday. The night before, he called to ask if I would watch her…
Are you being forced to date your ex? I divorced my ex-husband yet I feel like I’m being forced to “date” him. We share one child, but is there any reason we need to be hanging out? My little girl is just a year old and we divorced when she was 2 months old so…
How is your career going? How are all of the different facets of your life? Is your career in a lull? Are you in the midst of ridiculous fights with any of your close friends or family? Do you feel stressed or anxious daily? I answered yes to many of these types of questions about…
Is your ex the one that got away? Do you feel like you can’t stop thinking about him or her? Well, this isn’t that kind of story. For me, I feel humiliated that I ever dated my ex-husband. It feels as though my stock value plummeted once people saw me with him. I still remember…
It’s election day! I still need to drop off my ballot, but I struggled a lot with this year’s election. I’m not ecstatic about either party. The issue with electing a president is that you are voting based on promise. Promises that may or may not come to fruition. Voting in a presidential election is…
Some of my friends recently asked if I invited my ex to my daughter’s birthday party. My response was “No, we’re divorced.” Seriously, when did this become a thing? I feel like this is all coming from celebrities saying they have amicably and lovingly decided to live separate lives. Paaaaleeeze! I’m tired of this whole…
Have you seen the movie The Help? I just watched it last weekend and was inspired by so many parts of the movie. But the one that stood out to me the most was when Aibileen pulled the little girl aside and said “You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” It’s so important…
My ex just didn’t show up tonight. He completely forgot about his daughter! Has this happened to anyone else? Has your ex just forgotten their children??? I hadn’t heard from him and usually he texts by 5:30 pm to say he’ll be at my house around 6 to collect her but tonight, nothing. I finally…
I love Fall. It’s my favorite season. The leaves are turning beautiful, vibrant yellows, oranges, and reds. The air is crisp. Christmas movies are starting to air and yes I love the cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies. And now that I’m a mommy, it makes Fall so much better. This is my first fall with my…
Women are taking a huge step back in their careers. The COVID-19 pandemic has caused a lot of tension for working moms. Single and married moms are struggling, but why? Kids have now been home for 8 months and parents are finding themselves in uncharted territory. Working moms not only have a full-time out-of-the-house job,…
Well, this really could be helpful for anyone. I say ladies because that is generally my target audience but men, this may be eye-opening for you too if you identify yourself as the saver in the relationship. I remember being about 6 months pregnant when my lazy husband said to me that he wants to…
This is it…the last post in the Divorce Series. I’ve spent the last five weeks focusing on several elements of divorce that I think are important to research and understand. This final week, I’m revealing the most eye-opening revelations I’ve had, or the mistakes I made. ALL ABOUT MONEY How do you handle expenses and…
About a month after I filed for divorce, I showed up at the Initial Status Conference (ISC) and was blindsided by the question “will you be appointing a Child and Family Investigator (CFI)?” The judge asked us to make a decision by XYZ date and file the decision with the courts. This added an entirely…
Deciding to hire a lawyer is one of the biggest decisions you will make during a divorce. This one decision may determine how much your divorce costs and the overall outcome of the custody arrangement and marital assets. There are disadvantages associated with hiring a lawyer, as well as choosing to represent yourself. I will…
I never imagined going through a divorce would be so confusing. You’re already emotional with the fact that this person you thought you’d build a life with will no longer be a part of your world. But emotions aside, if you aren’t a divorce attorney, all of the red tape you need to go through…