Revelations of a Single Mama
I think one of the toughest things about ending a relationship is the vulnerability that ensues afterward. You’ve likely shared intimate moments or private thoughts with your partner and now it feels like that person is out there with stolen property. This can be true when you end a marriage, or a long-term relationship or…
My ex-husband was in his early thirties when I left him. The night I left, I had realized his dad was still breastfeeding him. As long as he’s on the boob, he’ll never mature into a man. As I’ve said before, I used to date very put-together, mature men. And what I mean by that…
Are you being forced to date your ex? I divorced my ex-husband yet I feel like I’m being forced to “date” him. We share one child, but is there any reason we need to be hanging out? My little girl is just a year old and we divorced when she was 2 months old so…
How is your career going? How are all of the different facets of your life? Is your career in a lull? Are you in the midst of ridiculous fights with any of your close friends or family? Do you feel stressed or anxious daily? I answered yes to many of these types of questions about…
Is your ex the one that got away? Do you feel like you can’t stop thinking about him or her? Well, this isn’t that kind of story. For me, I feel humiliated that I ever dated my ex-husband. It feels as though my stock value plummeted once people saw me with him. I still remember…
It’s election day! I still need to drop off my ballot, but I struggled a lot with this year’s election. I’m not ecstatic about either party. The issue with electing a president is that you are voting based on promise. Promises that may or may not come to fruition. Voting in a presidential election is…
Some of my friends recently asked if I invited my ex to my daughter’s birthday party. My response was “No, we’re divorced.” Seriously, when did this become a thing? I feel like this is all coming from celebrities saying they have amicably and lovingly decided to live separate lives. Paaaaleeeze! I’m tired of this whole…
I love Fall. It’s my favorite season. The leaves are turning beautiful, vibrant yellows, oranges, and reds. The air is crisp. Christmas movies are starting to air and yes I love the cheesy Hallmark Christmas movies. And now that I’m a mommy, it makes Fall so much better. This is my first fall with my…
They say opposites attract. I couldn’t disagree more. I tried making it work with my opposite. In my defense, I had no idea he was polar opposite when I married him. He put on a good front. Right before I left him, he said several ridiculous things that still make my blood boil. You wouldn’t…
As I gazed into my sweet little girl’s eyes while nursing her, tears streamed down my face. All I could think about is how it’s all my fault that she was brought into this hell. She was only a month old when I realized that I cried nonstop, he yelled nonstop, and my baby too,…
Do you feel like you end up in someone’s life to build them up and they just drag you down? Not in an arrogant way like “I’m so great” but in an honest way. For example, I feel like my ex was floundering when I met him. He was about to drop out of graduate…
I never imagined that marrying someone with a PhD would leave me paying alimony. Good news is…I didn’t have to. The bad news is, you may have to. If you’re unfamiliar with this, alimony (spousal support) is a recurring payment that one spouse is required to pay the other spouse for a specific timeframe. This…
Regret…I talk a lot about regret on my blog, because it’s been the all-consuming emotion that I’ve dealt with throughout this process. I’ve read in various sources that divorce is one of the most painful things you’ll go through in life. I would say it’s difficult and heartbreaking, but I can think of so many…
Years ago, I dated an atheist and he asked how I could believe in God when so many terrible things happen to good people. To be honest, it took me off guard at the time. I really couldn’t answer it well, but I said “faith”. I hate that bad things happen to wonderful people. Or…
Have you ever heard the song “Black Roses” written by Lucy Schwartz and performed by Clare Bowen? When I first heard this song on an episode of the show Nashville back in 2014, I was moved in a way I can’t explain. Not only are the lyrics and music absolutely stunning, but Clare’s voice is…
With the divorce rate so high, it makes me wonder… is it that so many of us are choosing the wrong partner, or do we never fully accept our partner? In other words, do we have one foot in and one foot out in case the waters become turbulent? It’s crazy to think that you…
One of the biggest dating mistakes I think you can make is tie yourself up with potential. I did this. As a matter of fact, I married and had a baby with potential and it is my biggest regret. Obviously I’m so grateful to have my sweet baby, but I had her with the wrong…