Some of my friends recently asked if I invited my ex to my daughter’s birthday party. My response was “No, we’re divorced.” Seriously, when did this become a thing? I feel like this is all coming from celebrities saying they have amicably and lovingly decided to live separate lives. Paaaaleeeze! I’m tired of this whole charade. Y’all are divorcing!!!! If it was amicable, you would just live together as best friends for the kids, right?
I don’t believe an amicable divorce exists except for the rare occasion that two very emotionally detached people divorce pretty early on in the marriage. The split must occur before several main events take place. One, before there are children. Two, before spiteful words have been spoken. Three, before any real bitterness has developed. Four, in marriages that are pretty equal financially speaking. In other words, neither party has contributed substantially more financially to the marriage. Bitterness ensues when one person works much harder throughout the marriage and has to just sign over half of their money and retirement to the other person. In my opinion, divorce is rarely amicable. Especially if even one person is an empath or has a heart, the divorce is not going to be all rainbows and butterflies.
I noticed when The Bachelor Colton Underwood and Cassie Randolph split, they were also spewing this talk about loving each other but going their separate ways. Then they end up in court because Colton was stalking Cassie!!! I haven’t kept up with the full story but I think the short of it was that he allegedly put a tracking device on her car. When people break up, it’s not amicable. Hollywood needs to stop portraying celebrity splits as happy and easygoing. These lies create an expectation that we all need to be this big happy family. I’m divorcing you for a reason. There’s baggage, there’s hurt, there’s likely anger so let’s call a spade a spade and end the charade. It is just as quick and easy to say “we are divorcing because we don’t like each other anymore,” rather than “we have amicably decided to live separate lives.”
This is my take on the matter, but please leave a comment below if you have experienced or witnessed an amicable divorce or breakup. ?
