Revelations of a Single Mama
They say opposites attract. I couldn’t disagree more. I tried making it work with my opposite. In my defense, I had no idea he was polar opposite when I married him. He put on a good front. Right before I left him, he said several ridiculous things that still make my blood boil. You wouldn’t…
Do you remember the day you realized you were living a nightmare? I do…mine is August 9, 2019. This day last year was one of the lowest points in my life. I was about 8 months pregnant. I was working on my feet 9 hours a day, and coming home to a lazy man-child who…
My family was having a family get-together the day after I left my husband. I broke the news to my sister and brother-in-law that I moved out the night before and would be filing for divorce. That is when they learned of the emotional and verbal abuse that had been going on behind closed doors….
It’s been a while since I last posted. In the time of COVID-19, I feel like we’re all on edge. With the slightest symptom, we panic “RONA?!!” The truth is, I spend most days worried about my own mortality. I never thought it would be such an all-consuming fear. Have any of you single mama’s…
Sequel to “To My Future Love…I’m So Sorry” I am the proud mommy to a sweet little girl. Like all moms, I would do absolutely anything for her and she can do no wrong. And because she’s so wonderful, I’d love another baby someday. The problem is…I’m single. Single and happy, but single. If…
Do you feel like you end up in someone’s life to build them up and they just drag you down? Not in an arrogant way like “I’m so great” but in an honest way. For example, I feel like my ex was floundering when I met him. He was about to drop out of graduate…
It’s been a long time coming and it feels surreal to finally be free. I didn’t feel this happy on my wedding day, which is saying something. $20,000 in legal fees and 6 months later, I’m liberated. Isn’t it odd that to get married, all you need to do is purchase a little piece of…
Dumper versus dumpee. This one hit me hard. Were you the one to leave or were you abandoned? If you’re anything like me, you may not have a definitive answer here. I left my husband and I filed for divorce, but somehow, I felt like I was dealing with emotions very different than the usual…
If you know me at all, you know I’m motivated by music. I love music: country, classical, jazz, bluegrass, reggaetón, rock, doesn’t matter, I love it all. So naturally, I’ve titled this blog entry after one of my favorites by Rodney Atkins. “If You’re Going Through Hell” became one of my go-to songs early on…
Regret…I talk a lot about regret on my blog, because it’s been the all-consuming emotion that I’ve dealt with throughout this process. I’ve read in various sources that divorce is one of the most painful things you’ll go through in life. I would say it’s difficult and heartbreaking, but I can think of so many…
Years ago, I dated an atheist and he asked how I could believe in God when so many terrible things happen to good people. To be honest, it took me off guard at the time. I really couldn’t answer it well, but I said “faith”. I hate that bad things happen to wonderful people. Or…
Have you ever heard the song “Black Roses” written by Lucy Schwartz and performed by Clare Bowen? When I first heard this song on an episode of the show Nashville back in 2014, I was moved in a way I can’t explain. Not only are the lyrics and music absolutely stunning, but Clare’s voice is…
I received an apology email from my estranged husband the other night. I filed for divorce almost 4 months ago and he finally gets it. He apologized for being selfish, hateful with his words, and an overall terrible husband (sort of). I couldn’t believe the words I was reading. With a narcissist, they rarely realize…
With the divorce rate so high, it makes me wonder… is it that so many of us are choosing the wrong partner, or do we never fully accept our partner? In other words, do we have one foot in and one foot out in case the waters become turbulent? It’s crazy to think that you…
I know what you’re thinking, there’s a bright side to getting divorced??? Yes, absolutely! While the process is brutal and seems like it’ll never end, there are many positives to look forward to in the end. In case you’re feeling down in the dumps today, these points will hopefully perk you up. We’ve all been…
How is the pandemic affecting you? I’ve been stressed for the safety of my baby and my family. Especially for a single mom, there is another level of stress added onto our plate. If you’re sharing custody of your littles with your ex, you may be stressed like I am. I’m able to completely quarantine…
All moms…married, single, divorced, widowed, artificially inseminated, adoptive, foster, etc. You are all superheroes and amazing sacrificial people that I look up to. It’s incredible what moms go through to bring another life into this world and raise them. I’ve always appreciated and respected my mom, but after my own journey to motherhood, I’ve gained…
When I think about what happened in my marriage and why it took so long to see the light, I think of the line in Hemingway’s The Sun Also Rises when Mike Campbell is asked how he went bankrupt: “Two ways,” he said. “Gradually and then suddenly”. That’s what happened with me. While they’re talking…
One of the biggest dating mistakes I think you can make is tie yourself up with potential. I did this. As a matter of fact, I married and had a baby with potential and it is my biggest regret. Obviously I’m so grateful to have my sweet baby, but I had her with the wrong…
When I left my husband, so many of my girlfriends were also ending relationships, filing for divorce, or booting out live-in boyfriends. This isn’t to say that this was a result of me leaving my husband, but sometimes, we feel comfort in having similar situations around us and it gives us courage to do what…