Revelations of a Single Mama
Today’s tip…record everything! Phone calls, video calls with kids, document times he picks up, times he drops off, any time he bails, etc. I decided to document all conversations with my ex after I left for many reasons. To name a few: he was abusive, had zero interest in being a father, and suffered from…
Many people wait until the kids have left for college before they seek divorce. There are also the occasional ones that fight to stick with it for as long as they can but end up divorcing when the kids are somewhere between 6 and 10 years old. A lot of parents think it’s tough on…
From what I’ve read, there are two major times during the year when divorce filings increase: January and August. The first week in January is an active time because many couples are spending a lot of quality time together over the holidays, which for the wrong match, could be unbearable. Therefore, all of this extra…
I was disappointed when I filed for divorce. It was never what I imagined my life would look like. I felt like a failure, but not because I left him. Honestly, I felt empowered when I left because I finally found the courage to do so. But I felt like I failed when I chose…
They say opposites attract. I couldn’t disagree more. I tried making it work with my opposite. In my defense, I had no idea he was polar opposite when I married him. He put on a good front. Right before I left him, he said several ridiculous things that still make my blood boil. You wouldn’t…
Do you remember the day you realized you were living a nightmare? I do…mine is August 9, 2019. This day last year was one of the lowest points in my life. I was about 8 months pregnant. I was working on my feet 9 hours a day, and coming home to a lazy man-child who…
My family was having a family get-together the day after I left my husband. I broke the news to my sister and brother-in-law that I moved out the night before and would be filing for divorce. That is when they learned of the emotional and verbal abuse that had been going on behind closed doors….
It’s been a while since I last posted. In the time of COVID-19, I feel like we’re all on edge. With the slightest symptom, we panic “RONA?!!” The truth is, I spend most days worried about my own mortality. I never thought it would be such an all-consuming fear. Have any of you single mama’s…
As I gazed into my sweet little girl’s eyes while nursing her, tears streamed down my face. All I could think about is how it’s all my fault that she was brought into this hell. She was only a month old when I realized that I cried nonstop, he yelled nonstop, and my baby too,…
Sequel to “To My Future Love…I’m So Sorry” I am the proud mommy to a sweet little girl. Like all moms, I would do absolutely anything for her and she can do no wrong. And because she’s so wonderful, I’d love another baby someday. The problem is…I’m single. Single and happy, but single. If…
Do you feel like you end up in someone’s life to build them up and they just drag you down? Not in an arrogant way like “I’m so great” but in an honest way. For example, I feel like my ex was floundering when I met him. He was about to drop out of graduate…
I never imagined that marrying someone with a PhD would leave me paying alimony. Good news is…I didn’t have to. The bad news is, you may have to. If you’re unfamiliar with this, alimony (spousal support) is a recurring payment that one spouse is required to pay the other spouse for a specific timeframe. This…
It’s been a long time coming and it feels surreal to finally be free. I didn’t feel this happy on my wedding day, which is saying something. $20,000 in legal fees and 6 months later, I’m liberated. Isn’t it odd that to get married, all you need to do is purchase a little piece of…
Dumper versus dumpee. This one hit me hard. Were you the one to leave or were you abandoned? If you’re anything like me, you may not have a definitive answer here. I left my husband and I filed for divorce, but somehow, I felt like I was dealing with emotions very different than the usual…
If you know me at all, you know I’m motivated by music. I love music: country, classical, jazz, bluegrass, reggaetón, rock, doesn’t matter, I love it all. So naturally, I’ve titled this blog entry after one of my favorites by Rodney Atkins. “If You’re Going Through Hell” became one of my go-to songs early on…
Regret…I talk a lot about regret on my blog, because it’s been the all-consuming emotion that I’ve dealt with throughout this process. I’ve read in various sources that divorce is one of the most painful things you’ll go through in life. I would say it’s difficult and heartbreaking, but I can think of so many…
Years ago, I dated an atheist and he asked how I could believe in God when so many terrible things happen to good people. To be honest, it took me off guard at the time. I really couldn’t answer it well, but I said “faith”. I hate that bad things happen to wonderful people. Or…
Have you ever heard the song “Black Roses” written by Lucy Schwartz and performed by Clare Bowen? When I first heard this song on an episode of the show Nashville back in 2014, I was moved in a way I can’t explain. Not only are the lyrics and music absolutely stunning, but Clare’s voice is…
I received an apology email from my estranged husband the other night. I filed for divorce almost 4 months ago and he finally gets it. He apologized for being selfish, hateful with his words, and an overall terrible husband (sort of). I couldn’t believe the words I was reading. With a narcissist, they rarely realize…
With the divorce rate so high, it makes me wonder… is it that so many of us are choosing the wrong partner, or do we never fully accept our partner? In other words, do we have one foot in and one foot out in case the waters become turbulent? It’s crazy to think that you…