It’s Official…I’m Divorced!!!

It’s been a long time coming and it feels surreal to finally be free. I didn’t feel this happy on my wedding day, which is saying something. $20,000 in legal fees and 6 months later, I’m liberated. Isn’t it odd that to get married, all you need to do is purchase a little piece of paper (marriage license) from the courthouse for $30 and say the words “I do”. In some states, you can marry yourselves, you don’t even need an officiant. You can be married with very little effort. BUT!!! If you want to get a divorce, it’s as though you must move mountains in order to free yourself. It feels as though it’ll never end. I spent $20,000 on my attorneys alone and my ex ended up agreeing with me on the custody agreement in the end. So what was it all for? We didn’t end up going to court, so I imagine if we had, it would’ve been close to a $100,000 divorce and I was fully prepared to spend it, for the sake of my daughter. But it really is shocking that I paid that much money for someone to email back and forth and send paperwork to the courts. Something of this magnitude would be what celebrities would go through, not simple people like us. Unfortunately, once you’re married, you must jump through numerous hoops to free yourself of the shackles.

I felt two major changes after I signed those beautiful papers: (1) more attractive and (2) a huge sense of relief. During the divorce process, I was consumed by anger and regret. And those emotions will likely always be there for me because of who I married. But after he signed those papers, I felt immediate relief. Relief from having to support him, relief from ever having to really deal much with him, relief from the stress of the divorce process, relief from whiplash dealing with his constant mood swings. And then I immediately felt better looking. It sounds silly but during my marriage, I felt uglier than I did when I was single. It’s like he started to rub off on me. But the truth is, I was so unhappy that I truly believe it made me less attractive. Let’s face it…happiness is an attractive quality. When I looked at pictures of myself, I started to realize that I was just miserable, which is certainly unattractive. Since I signed those divorce papers, I’ve felt ten times better looking. Haha. Believe it or not, someone like that can have a serious effect on your health, wellbeing, and overall appearance.

If you’re currently going through a divorce, hang in there. I know it’s tough and a huge drain on your emotions and your physical health, but it will all be worth it in the end so keep your eye on the prize. I have so many tips about divorce, financial settlements, and the dreaded custody battle that I want to share with you soon so stay tuned.